Sure, it's not kind to mock the exposure and therefore the public revealing and subsequent inherent shame of 'being caught out'. On camera, in front of the whole world. Ouch, that's going to hurt.
It's called 'consequences'.
However 'empathy' for their voluntary and no doubt previously hidden subterfuge?
What of said empathy for their partners, children, family and friends, who have been betrayed - yes betrayed - at the most fundamental level?
Errm, no.
Hopefully the betrayal and subsequent fall out will be a teaching tool for them both. That's what 'consequences' in life are *meant* to teach us.
As is every 'failure' and mishap and miscalculation in life.
However let's not dress up or paper over or *make excuses* for what it is.
Lying and betrayal. Rupture of fundamental trust, breaking of promises made.
The main difference with this 'couple' was the EXPOSURE of their lies was so openly raw and public.
Yes!!!! Agree with you completely. I wrote a piece yesterday around this that I have not gotten the courage to share. I have been so bothered with the lack of empathy for ALL parties. We are all one misstep away from being the headline.
And when that day comes—
what do we hope the world will see in us? I hope it’s something more than a mistake. I hope it’s the whole messy, flawed, complicated person. Still worthy. Still here. Still trying. We are all humans. #teamhuman
True, but we all collapse, fall apart, have trauma to overcome…He not only betrayed himself and his wife, but his children, his company, his employees, all of it. There are much less selfish ways to deal with whatever you are going through. The internet is a cruel place, and I don’t condone reveling in anyone’s pain. I feel the deepest sympathy for his children. Cheating isn’t just between partners.
Yes. Valid points. But we all fail and we all fall. To revel in someone else’s fall is a disgusting demonstration of one’s own immaturity. We should not hiss at the people involved we should instead hope for their growth and evolution.
Brings up an interesting thought though. Without the shame would he have woken up? I don’t know if he has or not. Given his statement, maybe not. But had no one noticed, he likely would have carried on. I don’t believe it’s our job to pass judgement, but I wonder what the outcome would be if there were no external consequences.
Another great point. As much as I loathe those who shame others, there is utility in that emotion for the sufferer. That’s true of all emotions, but shame is especially potent
On a purely human level, I believe this is correct. I do feel empathy for the individuals. In terms of the roles they fill in society, not so much. Specifically, the CEO and head of HR. If internet chatter can be believed, this CEO was not a pleasant person to work for, a person who treats others like discardable commodities. For people in “corporate America” who’ve had the experience of working for someone like this, then further were not supported by their HR department, I can imagine their pleasure at seeing this all go down.
In other words, if it was the same guy and the head of HR for a different company, there really is no story.
Sure, it's not kind to mock the exposure and therefore the public revealing and subsequent inherent shame of 'being caught out'. On camera, in front of the whole world. Ouch, that's going to hurt.
It's called 'consequences'.
However 'empathy' for their voluntary and no doubt previously hidden subterfuge?
What of said empathy for their partners, children, family and friends, who have been betrayed - yes betrayed - at the most fundamental level?
Errm, no.
Hopefully the betrayal and subsequent fall out will be a teaching tool for them both. That's what 'consequences' in life are *meant* to teach us.
As is every 'failure' and mishap and miscalculation in life.
However let's not dress up or paper over or *make excuses* for what it is.
Lying and betrayal. Rupture of fundamental trust, breaking of promises made.
The main difference with this 'couple' was the EXPOSURE of their lies was so openly raw and public.
Yes, that's going to hurt...
I think you missed the entire point of this article
Rather, I understood it well. Cheers 🍻
Yes!!!! Agree with you completely. I wrote a piece yesterday around this that I have not gotten the courage to share. I have been so bothered with the lack of empathy for ALL parties. We are all one misstep away from being the headline.
And when that day comes—
what do we hope the world will see in us? I hope it’s something more than a mistake. I hope it’s the whole messy, flawed, complicated person. Still worthy. Still here. Still trying. We are all humans. #teamhuman
So good. Thank you Melodee
True, but we all collapse, fall apart, have trauma to overcome…He not only betrayed himself and his wife, but his children, his company, his employees, all of it. There are much less selfish ways to deal with whatever you are going through. The internet is a cruel place, and I don’t condone reveling in anyone’s pain. I feel the deepest sympathy for his children. Cheating isn’t just between partners.
Yes. Valid points. But we all fail and we all fall. To revel in someone else’s fall is a disgusting demonstration of one’s own immaturity. We should not hiss at the people involved we should instead hope for their growth and evolution.
Brings up an interesting thought though. Without the shame would he have woken up? I don’t know if he has or not. Given his statement, maybe not. But had no one noticed, he likely would have carried on. I don’t believe it’s our job to pass judgement, but I wonder what the outcome would be if there were no external consequences.
Another great point. As much as I loathe those who shame others, there is utility in that emotion for the sufferer. That’s true of all emotions, but shame is especially potent
Agree 100%.
If the relevant parties are willing to do their evolving work, wonderful 👏
As I read somewhere recently, no failures (and yes we all are fully human and fall in whatever ways) only *lessons in discernment*.
On a purely human level, I believe this is correct. I do feel empathy for the individuals. In terms of the roles they fill in society, not so much. Specifically, the CEO and head of HR. If internet chatter can be believed, this CEO was not a pleasant person to work for, a person who treats others like discardable commodities. For people in “corporate America” who’ve had the experience of working for someone like this, then further were not supported by their HR department, I can imagine their pleasure at seeing this all go down.
In other words, if it was the same guy and the head of HR for a different company, there really is no story.
I love this article. This resonates on deep level and I'm grateful for you sharing this perspective.❤️
Thank you my friend
Absolutely spot on!
Thank you Shannon
Marriage is a lifelong commitment and if more people realized this before getting married then I think there would be fewer affairs.