Be It Until You See It

Why You Keep Failing to Change—And the Future Self You’ve Been Ignoring

Let’s get something straight:
Your unconscious doesn’t know a damn thing about your future self.

It’s got decades of data on your past—trauma, habits, personality quirks, likes, dislikes, that one time you cried in third grade because your teacher corrected you in front of the class.
It knows your current self inside out—the fears, the patterns, the “I just don’t do mornings” identity you wear like a second skin.

But the future self?
Blank.

Not because it doesn’t exist.
But because you’ve never actually spoken to her.
You’ve been too busy consulting with Past-Self Paula and Current-Self Candy—who, for all their life experience, are absolutely the worst people to ask for directions to your future.

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The Change Mistake Everyone Makes

The entire self-help industry makes this same error.

They teach you to stay in the now.
To be authentic.
To stay true to yourself.

Which is cute.

Until you realize that the current self is built on a story that was shaped by a past self who was scared, wounded, reactive, and often operating on what I call M.U.D.—Misguided Unconscious Decisions.

Staying true to that?
Not exactly a recipe for transformation.

And even the spiritual crowd gets it wrong.
They preach presence as if the present is some divine endpoint.
But presence, without vision, is just you looping the same story in slightly more peaceful surroundings.

If you want to evolve, you have to stop talking to the current self about the future.
You have to start talking from the future.

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Meet the Cast: Paula, Candy, and Frita

Imagine your psyche as a trio:

• Past-Self Paula – she’s got baggage, but also wisdom.

• Current-Self Candy – she’s busy maintaining the status quo, anxious about bills, bored, scrolling.

• Future-Self Frita – she’s evolved, calm, wise, free, sovereign, and deeply unbothered.

Now imagine trying to change your life… but instead of talking to Frita, you go cry to Paula and brainstorm with Candy.

That’s what most people do.

They consult the selves who are programmed for survival—not expansion.

It’s like asking your high school self to help you write a business plan.
Sure, she has opinions. But does she know anything about what you actually need now? No.

The tragic part?
Frita—the version of you that has the life, the energy, the relationships, the purpose you’re trying to reach—is never even in the room.

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Your Nervous System Is Still Carrying a 7-Year-Old

Let’s get scientific for a second.

Your nervous system is a living memory bank.
It carries emotional imprints from every past self you've been—especially the younger ones.
That shy 7-year-old. The heartbroken 17-year-old. The burned-out 27-year-old.

Each of them lives as a pattern inside your system.
They have personalities. Preferences. Defenses.

That’s why healing isn’t just about letting go—it’s about reparenting these past selves while simultaneously creating space for someone entirely new to emerge.

That someone?

Is the Next Level Human version of you.
Your Future Self—designed, not defaulted.

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The Truth About Frita: She Already Exists

Your future self isn’t imaginary.
She’s a real consciousness you haven’t built a relationship with yet.

You want proof?

Consider fear.

Fear is nothing more than a future self coming back in time to warn you.
It’s a projection of potential reality influencing your body now.

If fear can do that, why not clarity?
Why not peace?
Why not purpose?

You’ve just been tuning in to the wrong future frequency.

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Constructing Your Future Self’s Script

Real change happens when you stop faking it… and start being it.

But here’s the catch: you can’t “be it” if you don’t know what it is.

That’s where most people fail. They:

• Try to copy someone else’s current self.

• Try to manifest a vision that doesn’t align with their personal story.

• Try to become a version of themselves that has no roots in their authenticity.

You can’t build a skyscraper without a foundation.
And you can’t become a future version of yourself if you haven’t woven it from the threads of your past.

That’s what I had to learn.

My volatile, unpredictable mother?
Taught me emotional intuition.

My bullying brother?
Taught me power, challenge, resilience.

My obsession with fitness and medicine?
Taught me discipline and transformation.

Every part of my past and present gave me the raw materials to build the future self I now live as—a teacher, a healer, and a builder of human potential.

I didn’t fake it.
I didn’t manifest it out of thin air.

I mapped it.
Scripted it.
Became it.

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The Future Self Isn’t Whining—She’s Grateful

When you tune into your future self, you’ll notice something strange:
She isn’t wanting anything.

Because a person who wants… doesn’t have.

And the future self has.

She’s grateful. She remembers the pain—but she doesn’t identify with it.
She doesn’t ruminate. She doesn’t spiral. She doesn’t tolerate low-vibe pity parties.

She honors what happened… and gets back to creating.

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This Isn’t Faking It. This Is Becoming.

You don’t need to fake it until you make it.
You need to be it until you see it.

Create a detailed, emotional, and sensory-rich map of your future self’s life:

• What does she do first thing in the morning?

• What does she eat?

• How does she breathe?

• What doesn’t she tolerate anymore?

• What has she let go of?

This isn’t daydreaming. It’s embodiment.

When you start to live like her, think like her, feel like her—you begin reprogramming your neurology.

And eventually, you collapse the timeline between who you are and who you were born to become.

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Closing Thought: The Future Is the Missing Variable

Change doesn’t happen in the now.

It happens when the now is informed by the future.

Your future self is not some fantasy.
She’s the architect of your next level.
But she can’t lead if you never invite her in.

So stop consulting Paula and Candy.
Start building a relationship with Frita.

She’s waiting.

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PS: Ready to Meet Your Future Self?

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